SHOULD WE FORCE ELDERS TO DO
WHAT WE THINK IS BEST?
The short answer is “no”–assuming aging parents have what 101-year-old Sr. Advisor R calls “a good head on their shoulders” and they’re doing nothing that threatens life and limb. If we try to force something that even suggests limiting parents’ independence or autonomy, we enter dangerous emotional territory.......
What is the motivation to force elders to do something?
1. our feeling about parents’ judgment
2. the consequences of–and for–our relationship with parents (earlier, now, future)
3. Parents’ age, health, near-accidents or scary events, a doctor’s recommendation or friends’ recommendations may contribute.
Possibly omitted, however, is this thought–
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