Noncommercial tops the list.
- Being able to do something with their child(ren)/their family. Some say it really doesn't matter "what," it's just good to be together. (And this doesn't differ from what most mothers want for Mother's Day.) Easier to do when children live near. Ideas for being together are only limited by our imagination. We go to them; they come to us. We do something special based on their interests (day trip, ballgame, picnic etc); they come over and "it's just good to be together" (and usually includes a meal).
- Being able to do whatever they want with their child(ren) on a given day. In other words, an IOU for a day and doings of their choice.
- To get a nice card, with a nice sentiment, and be left alone (or with only his wife) is the wish of one aging father who see his children daily or almost daily has a need to "carve out time for himself."
"Dad was beginning to have problems. I think he knew it.
He wanted one more opportunity for a fishing trip...just the two of us.
And he phoned me here in the East and asked if I could come out West so we could go fishing together. It was his last fishing trip. It was like old times."
- One grandchild who thought grandpa would like a computer has written simple instructions beginning with turning on/off the computer, and accessing, writing and sending emails. The instructions are very limited and simple. Grandpa's new computer--a gift from the family--comes with beginner's lessons from the grandchild, (using the little, hand-made, newly-created, simple instruction booklet).
- An adult son has downloaded his elderly father's favorite music to an iPod and showed him how to use it. His father loves music, but doesn't "do" technology because he's in his nineties.
- An IOU from a child or grandchild to come over and help with any technological problems (reprogramming the coffee maker, "fixing" the computer etc.) may be welcomed. Or we could substitute: "come over and help with repair problems, gardening or other chores."